{"id":3261,"date":"2016-08-24T17:22:11","date_gmt":"2016-08-24T15:22:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/greatpeopleinside.com\/?p=3261"},"modified":"2017-02-15T16:11:06","modified_gmt":"2017-02-15T14:11:06","slug":"dealing-with-stress-step-3-dont-fight-feelings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/greatpeopleinside.com\/fi\/dealing-with-stress-step-3-dont-fight-feelings\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing With Stress, Step 3: Don’t Fight Feelings"},"content":{"rendered":"

(This article is a part of a series; please start here<\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n

Fighting the feeling will only enhance its grip<\/strong>. That is something adults almost never tell kids, when it comes to “proper emotional reaction”. At least where I am from, “boys don’t cry”. I’ve been told that many times; I’ve never been told how<\/strong> to fight tears (and, of course, the more I tried, the more they would trickle down my cheeks, red-hot with shame).<\/p>\n

One doesn’t justify feelings. They are what they are: a natural, honest and strong reaction of the mind (and body) to an unpleasant set of circumstances. You wouldn’t even dream to justify breathing and explain metabolism. Why would you need to treat feelings differently?<\/p>\n

That “good” feeling \/ “bad” feeling dichotomy is a purely social construct. “Chase away the nature, it will return at a gallop” say the French. And, as Nature would do, the harder you fight it the more it will return with a vengeance.<\/p>\n

So, next time you feel something you “shouldn’t” feel, stop fighting it. If it is fear you feel, allow it; if it is anger you feel, say to yourself “This is fear that I feel; I will allow it to rise and go away without fighting it<\/em>“. Name it, observe it and let it be. Eventually, it will go away.<\/p>\n

That is not to say you should indulge in manifesting<\/strong> your every feeling. Having that feeling is one thing; acting<\/strong> on it is a different beast altogether. Do not allow<\/strong> yourself to act under the pressure. Bad moods alter the worldview, and consequences could be more than you bargained for.<\/p>\n

If need be, you can explain: “I am feeling very nervous right now and it has nothing to do with you. I do not want to talk \/ explain \/ tell the story and I do not want to engage further because I don’t really know what I can do, so please let me be for now and I will come to you later<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

Please, do not make the mistake of taking it out on whomever stays in front of you at the moment. Even if you explain later that “it had nothing to do with you, I was just angry<\/em>“, some things cannot be undone.<\/p>\n

Feel your feelings. Name them, call them out, let them come and go without resisting. Where they’ve been, the landscape will clear out and refresh, more often than not.<\/p>\n

Read part 4<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Do you want to find out more? Get in touch with a consultant now or request a free demo!<\/p>\n

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By\u00a0Catalin Octavian Blaga – Trainer Great People Inside<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Trainer who turns business experience and psychology into impacting training programs… and more! \u00a0You can find out more about Catalin by clicking here<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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